Now I just need 2 angel tears. Yay!

Thanks for the trade again!


Mmhmm.
Wait, she won't give you birth control? That's not cool. If you don't want to get prego that's your business not hers. Plus for a lot of people pregnancy would be the end of the world. Like me and my husband. We NEVER want bio kids. And my body wouldn't be able to support a pregnancy. I HAVE to have birth control.

Let's all take coding classes!

Just 2 more tears. I'm too lazy to update the title. lol.

I sent you the tears XD I was just waiting after you'll be settled with Haze

It's not really that I actually asked directly for the birth control pill. I actually don't want it XD I was consulting with her about my terrible pms. I literally told her "some months I'm turning into a witch, help me, would some birth control pill help?" I asked that, because I've heard it helps with heavy pms, and I didn't know about existence of the med she then told me about. I guess her motive as more that I don't really need that pill, so why intervene in the system like that? Bf is actually very much against that pill. And I wouldn't really look forward to taking it, only as last resort.
I actually would cry tears of joy if I accidentally got pregnant Not that we have good conditions, but hey, people have worse, too

Is your body not being able to support pregnancy related to your chronic illnesses? What would happen, would your life be in danger?
You said no bio kids, does it mean you're planning an adoption?
Didn't we talk about this at some point? I think we have, but I'm not sure *is forgetfull* Or maybe you just mentioned it some time?

Thanks so much!

Ah. Why don't you want it? And why is bf against them? It's not like he's using it.

Some birth control will get rid of your periods. Which is awesome. lol.

I would literally want to kill myself if I got pregnant.

I could possibly survive a pregnancy but it would damage me a lottt. And you can't take many medicines when you're pregs if you don't want to mess the kid up. I need my meds.

No kids at all. We might adopt if we ever change our minds, but we're def not having them biologically.

We're childfree. We don't want kids at all. Kids are ok in tiny doses but neither of us could deal with having one of our own. We'd die of anxiety.

No problem

Most of them get rid fo the periods. And I don't want my period to disappear. I don't want fake periods, I don't want my body to just fakely bleed. I don't want to mess up my hormones while they are actually fine. I don't want such intervention. Most of them also cause weight gain, which is totally unwelcome, I have enough trouble losing my gut; and make the libido even lesser or make it disappear completely. I actually enjoy sex, even though we have slightly different temperaments, so I don't want to be that fat woman who refuses sex to the man she loves because she doesn't feel like it. He has his needs and rights, too. And I don't want to have issues with getting pregnant afterwards (because I'd need to be taking it for a long time and that would cause problems). I don't want such intervention with such big risks.
I'm already having lesser sex appetite because of that strictly anti-pms pill and I'm considering not taking it for a few cycles now to see if I manage without it.

Yeah, meds are very restricted in pregnancy. And you have to consult everything with your doctor ;/

Actually a lot of kids just piss me off XD I still want to have my own somehow, lol. Why would you die of anxiety?

Now I need 234 x Sunflower, 8 x Yellow Balloon. So many.

So a lot of those things are true of birth control, but it really doesn't affect your fertility after you stop taking it, even if you take it for a long time.

It's not a fake either? Like everything is the same except that an egg never gets released.

Either partner has the right to refuse sex at any time for any reason. People aren't obligated to have sex if they don't want to. I love sex too, but I'd never bully my husband to have it if he didn't want to. And vice versa. That's why there's masturbation.

Because I have really bad anxiety? And kids are super fragile? They could get in an accident or be kidnapped or murdered. There are so many things that could go wrong that I don't want to have to deal with. Even if you take care of them perfectly something horrible could come up and completely ruin their little lives. I don't want that kind of responsibility.

Lol, not many with me, I'll send you the trade

Except it may. And I don't want to push my luck. Not being able to get pregnant is one of my main anxieties. Especially if they have been taken for a long period of time.

So it's fake. If the egg isn't released, it cummulates and the exfoilation isn't necessary either, so why even do it? I don't want exfoilation just to know the pill is working. And it actually may fail, by the way.

Of course either partner has that right. I'm just saying, I don't want to be the partner that refuses every freaking time. I don't want to stop needing sex. I like to make love with my bf. But my libido is much lower than his as it is, I don't need pills to make it disappear completely. That's how I'd lead my partner to cheat on me, hate himself and leave me, mentally beating himself up for doing something horrible, even if it really was practically my fault for not giving him what he needed and deserved from time to time. He's not forcing me to have sex, I just want to be able to feel the need to get intimate with him. Unlike I've been for the few cycles of taking those anti-pms pills.
Plus I know he doesn't really like masturbating. And he wouldn't want me to masturbate either, he get's somehow possessive (don't ask, I dunno -.-).

If you're only going to focus on what can possibly go wrong, then of course you'll be so anxious about having kids. Then, if everyone thought like you did, human kind would disappear off the face of Earth, because no one would want the responsibility. You can just try your best. Sometimes parents' best is being overly protective and possessive. Which is also wrong. We can only raise kids as best we can, protect and teach them the best we can, but we can't control a pedophile teacher or a murderer from the forest. It's beyond your control, so you can't focus on that.
I'm aware that one day, there may be a tragedy, with my children involved. But whatever will take place, it's not in my control. There's only this much I can give. Parents are not gods. The key is to notice things that may lead to conclusions, that the teacher may be a pedo. Or to send the kid to therapy when there's nothing more you can do.
With that way of thinking, I would be even scared to own a dog, or leave my apartment

Hello, I have all the materials you need and could swap them for others one of the same rarity, or some wren eggs if that works for you.

I sent the trade to light's mule already But maybe she'll prefer to swap, so let's just wait

Oops nevermind, sorry I didn't go through your post.

Thanks for the trade mem!

Nah, mem. Oral birth control does not affect your fertility after you stop taking it. An IUD could, if it perforated your uterus. But not the actual pill.

Well the shedding is necessary because there's no baby there. So if you do let yourself have a period then you're going to need to get rid of that extra lining somehow. And the easiest way is just having a period.

It's good to just get the super cheap pregnancy tests from amazon. The kind that are just paper? Then you can take like one every week without spending a billion bucks.

I got to disagree with the whole not having sex with bf will force bf to cheat. Nah. Hubs and I have had 3 month long dry spells and we have never considered cheating on the other.

How does he get possessive of you masturbating? That's really weird. It's literally solo play. No one is involved but you. There's nothing to be jealous of?

Not only the things that can go wrong. But my husband and I have completely horrible genes. And I feel like dropping all these issues on a baby is completely and totally selfish. There's nothing so special about my genetics that I NEED to have a baby. Maybe if there was something amazing in my DNA I'd think about it.

Plus there are way too many people already. Why have one if you can get a gently used kid without the hassle of childbirth. lol. There are thousands and thousands of kids that need homes out there.

Well it's a lot different owning a dog than having a kid. For instance a dog can't hurt people on the same scale as a fucked up human. Sure they can bite a bunch of people. But a human can commit genocide or come up with horrible inventions or enslave an entire people.

Also you know that any person born is going to suffer. It's guaranteed. Parents generally just hope that the happy times outweigh the suffering. And I don't think I have the right to gamble a person's happiness like that. Just to try to make myself more fulfilled?

I have very unpopular views on people having babies and parenting.


Haze - thanks for the offer. I appreciate the offer. I'll probably need something really soon anyway so stick around!