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 Post subject: Re: Raine's Hangout- <3 OPEN
Posted: Aug 6th, '15, 21:13    


Mikael Hart

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Aha, yeah. The girls I hang out with like to try out new cafes [while the dudes usually settle for the ones with the cutest chicks and play board and card games there]; it's fun to hang out with them now and then.

Ah, I see; that's nice of you. XD I get that; I'm not that way with the TV, but I can be a computer hog. Luckily, this computer is my computer. XD

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 Post subject: Re: Raine's Hangout- <3 OPEN
Posted: Aug 6th, '15, 21:21    


Raine Seryn

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Aww that sounds nice ;u; <3
I don't really have many friends irl. I think only 2 at this point? And we're not very close. But I like to try out small restaurants with my bf sometimes.

Usually tho we just try out new recipes for dinners together since it's cheaper. XD

Yeah sometimes if I really want the tv I'll just use it while he's at work since I can work whenever I want. So it's not that bad. ^^
I can be a computer hog too, and really fussy about if someone touches mine. ^^;

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 Post subject: Re: Raine's Hangout- <3 OPEN
Posted: Aug 6th, '15, 21:36    


Mikael Hart

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Aha, I've spoken to quite a few net people, and apparently most of them don't have many IRL friends. I guess if they did, they'd have a hard time trying to balance friendships both here and there.

I was lucky because I grew up in church, practically, so most of my friends are from there--

--Good grief, it suddenly started raining! o_o I'm glad, because California's in a drought, but the weather's so weird here!

Uhh, anyways, mostly church friends that I hang out with, or friends I've met through church [like some of them don't go anymore]. I have a couple I met from games and online forums [oddly enough, some of them live in my area or close to it], and the rest of my friends are all you online folks. I haven't really kept up with my school friends except through FB. *facepalm*

Aha, I totally get the bit about being a hog. My stuff is mine, so I get grouchy when other people just do what they want with it without asking me. My family and I generally respect each other's space and belongings, though.

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 Post subject: Re: Raine's Hangout- <3 OPEN
Posted: Aug 6th, '15, 21:48    


Raine Seryn

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Ahhhh that's good! Colorado has been in a drought a long time too so I understand. We rarely get rain. (though this year we had constant rain for like 2 weeks! It was so weird!).

The weather here is highly unpredictable. One minute it's sunny and warm and literally 15 minutes later it could be snowing. @_@ People here always joke about how you have to wear a tank top underneath your clothes and always bring a big coat year round cause you just never know. XD

I went to a youth-group thing in highschool and went to the church and stuff for a few years. But I couldn't really get into it. >///> there wasn't enough love for what I believe and I'm not good at being social anyway.
I didn't make many friends there tho. The group I was friends with is really.... they gossip and talk about people behind their backs a lot. And will exclude people they don't like that week. And they always acted like they were better than everyone else. =\ so I didn't stick with them.

The 2 friends I have now are from highschool, though I wasn't really friends with them when I went. I actually became friends with them through the other people. XD They're both people that group excluded and we were all fed up with it and moved on.

It's hard for me to maintain rl friendships tho cause I'm really anxious around people so I'll end up flaking out of plans a lot cause I get panicked and then exhausted. @_@

Ahaha but actually one of my friends recently moved in with us at my parents house, so I see him in the evenings usually cause he'll come downstairs to eat dinner with us. My other friend lives across town (like a 20 minute drive) so I don't really see her often.

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 Post subject: Re: Raine's Hangout- <3 OPEN
Posted: Aug 6th, '15, 22:17    


Mikael Hart

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I enjoy the rain, but I hope it doesn't leave everything muggy and muddy; it would make work difficult for me tonight, since ti's outdoors.

Aha, that's a funny saying. XD

*nod* I understand what you mean, and I even agree with you to some extent that the church and Christians can sometimes be hypocritical. *facepalm* I've felt that way in the past, to the point that I wanted to quit, and surprisingly, I heard it said from other people in the group that they felt the same way.

However, I came to believe for my own life that quitting wasn't the way to handle things, and if I wanted to show God's love for people, I can't just quit when something/someone doesn't suit my needs. Instead [and this is somewhat recent], I've begun to try to be kinder and more loving towards people, getting out of my own comfort zone and making an effort to connect with them. With those I'm close to, I try to maintain an open an honest relationship, to the point that I'll even talk about any issues I have with them, even though that's hella uncomfortable for me. Ever since then, it's been a lot better. Maybe the situation hasn't changed much in church since the beginning, but at least for myself, I feel like I've been growing.

Whenever people gossip in front of me, I encourage them to talk to the other party. For people who are excluded... er, I just try to talk to everyone, and I explained to my friends that I won't always be sitting with them because I want to know others more and be more inclusive [and it was a good thing I explained myself, because one was really getting jealous --she didn't like the other girl I was talking to]. Not everyone is going to get along, and we all don't agree with each other, but that doesn't mean that there shouldn't be any effort on our part when we can help it; that's what I think.

There are people that I try not to get closer to than others though, and that's people who are kinda depressing and just don't take good advice when it's given to them. When you're trying to help a person out and they're unwilling to change and just make excuses, it just feels kinda depressing and hopeless on your part... I feel like I've tried, but if it's going to drag me down, then it's more than I can take. *facepalm* Doesn't mean I won't be polite to them, though. I'm just not cut out to be running around in circles or giving that kind of time and attention to something that feels fruitless [although I know there are other people who are better at handling folks in this field and that's good for them].

Ooh, I see. In high school I made a really good friend with a person who was friendly and kind. She would always reach out to people who were alone and I really admired her for that. The guys in my current group are that way, and I'm really glad. It makes me feel like we're working together to be good friends with each other.

Yikes, flaking out is no good --when people do that, I'm less inclined to invite them to something new because sometimes it takes a lot of effort to set up an event or outing. I do understand social anxiety though; it can be really hard. Maybe you can start off small --hang out with one or two people? You can even do that in a group, if your friends are nice enough not to mind.

Ah, I see. Well, at least you can chat with your other friend online too. XD

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 Post subject: Re: Raine's Hangout- <3 OPEN
Posted: Aug 6th, '15, 22:33    


Raine Seryn

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I don't even mind if it's muggy here when it rains lol. I'm just happy to have rain. XD

Yeah I fell like I ended up quitting partly cause the whole things seemed like it wasn't good for me and partly cause I've just never been very religious. >////> I personally don't believe God cares if I go to church as long as I try my best to be a good person. Even tho I am really anxious around people I always try to be polite and caring and I'll help them with anything I can. I think that's the kind of thing that really matters. And I'm much happier not being around people who didn't seem to care about me one way or another anyway.

That's so great for you tho. To grow in such a wonderful way and to get close to people with similar goals. I agree that it's good to talk to people about why you choose to do things or if something about them is bothering you. I try to do that too with the few people I actually talk to, hahaha.

I do go spend time with my friends sometimes. They're not friends with each other tho so I can't really lump them together. They know each other, but never really clicked as friends. They don't have much in common. ^^;

I don't flake on anything hard to plan tho. Like if we set up where we're going or something I'll be there. But if they're like 'hey let's hang out on thursday' and I know we'll probably just be watching movies at home or something I might get too nervous and... I don't really mean to flake, but I get so nervous I get physically ill. ;__; So I'll get a massive headache and I'll be nauseous. But even if I flake out my bf is friends with them so he'll go without me.

and my friends know I'm like this and they're so kinda and understanding about it. ;u; But I do try my best to go once in awhile to see them.

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 Post subject: Re: Raine's Hangout- <3 OPEN
Posted: Aug 6th, '15, 22:53    


Mikael Hart

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Muggy, humid weather makes me lethargic.

*nod* That's understandable. Well, for me, I don't believe that it's only about being a good person [although that's really important], but about letting other people know that they aren't alone in the world or are any sort of chance or mistake, but there's someone out there who put thought into creating them, and cares for them, and wants them to be a part of their life [Jesus]. There are a lot of lonely and sad people in the world, and I would want them to take comfort in knowing that they're loved.

Because I feel loved by God, I want to show love to others as well, and a lot of times, what that means is being a good friend and being kind and patient. It means doing things that I don't always feel like doing and trying to listen to others, even when it's hard [it can be really hard for me]. I don't think they key point is about whether they end up going to church [although I think church is good because ideally, it's about sharing life, accountability, and being a community] --I've often heard the phrase, "Going to church doesn't necessarily make someone a good person, just like going into a garage doesn't make you a car."

I believe that if you are Christian and are going to church, then you shouldn't keep it at that, but show what you've learned in action and practice, and showing love to others, even those who are hard to love.

Well, even though your church community sounds like they didn't really give you that love [and that's a real shame], I'll certainly try to be a good friend to you. XD It's not because I have to or am obligated to, but really, I like you well enough as a person [as I like most people I regularly talk to] and so I want to be a good friend.

Yeah... but it's not like my church is perfect or anything --no church is. I just don't want to get caught up in looking at the flaws in my church personally --I want to fix it myself if I can, and just pray if I can't. There's only so much I can do for the church, but if I can do it, I want to do it. I'm part of the church myself, after all. Ugh, but I'm still growing though, so sometimes I overlook things or hit a wall or make mistakes. *facepalm*

Ooh, I see. Aha, well, spending time with friends individually is fun too. It also makes setting up outings a lot easier --my friends and I were actually supposed to go on a road trip [it'd take at least two to three cars because there's so many of us], but the trip ended up being postponed because some of us [including myself] are going to a birthday party [we'd already promised them ahead of time, so it seems fair to stick with it]. There was also the time when we'd set up group kayak [also three cars' worth] and actually had to wait for two months because of scheduling [someone was always busy on the days planned].

Hanging out with just one or two people is so much easier in comparison, and a lot more personal too. XD

Ah, yeah, that makes sense. That happens [not going to a casual hangout]. My cousin rarely hangs out with us for stuff like that because he likes interactive and purposeful hangouts where there's something to do that's more than just talking together. He likes going on trips to places or events, or some sort of educational activity. I like those things too, so we get along well.

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 Post subject: Re: Raine's Hangout- <3 OPEN
Posted: Aug 6th, '15, 23:49    


Raine Seryn

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Ahh me too, but that makes for the best naps =u= <33

Ohhh well I'm happy you are trying so hard to do all that. I think the world needs more people who really put that into practice. I think it's important and really helps spread positivity. ^^ <3

Aww I'd love to be good friends too. I'm kinda off and on the internet though so it's hard for people online to get very close to me ^^; I tend to not get on the computer much if I feel art blocked cause I feel guilty for not drawing.
But as long as you can be patient with me lol

Yeah I used to hang out with a lot of people. Not 3 car's worth I don't think, but enough that I understand what you mean. I'm glad it's down to only a few now tho. Those heavily social situations made me so tired and sick all the time. I'm much happier now.

I like both kinds of get togethers. I enjoy sitting it and talking to friends in small groups, it just takes me a while to feel comfortable. But it's nice once in awhile to have a plan so there's no pressure to think up something to entertain ourselves.

Ahhh this talk makes me want to go to the museum. *_*

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 Post subject: Re: Raine's Hangout- <3 OPEN
Posted: Aug 7th, '15, 00:01    


Mikael Hart

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I'm not good with napping --I'm more of the type to just knock out for hours and wake up groggier.

*nod* I believe that if a person believes in something, they should try to put it into practice. It may not be easy, and they may not be able to do it perfectly, but it's important to try. I'm a strong believer in self-improvement and positivity, despite the fact that I can be mildly pessimistic at times. Ah well, just another area to keep trying in.

Aha, that's fine; I'll try to frequent your thread, and if you like, you can frequent mind. I already remember you from among several KofKers I've met, and that's something. XD We'll just chat when we're both on.

I understand being socially tired sometimes. A lot of times, I need to recharge by spending some solitary times after a big trip. I feel like I'm more introverted, but I'm also very extroverted. *facepalm* It's good to know how you are and then work with that. :)

Same. I just like spending time with friends in general, but if it's going to be an outing, sometimes it's better if the activity is one with a familiar group for me.

Aha, I'd want to go to. My local favorite are the Getty and the Getty Villa. One has paintings, and one has a Greco-Roman theme. They're both nice. I also like arboretums.

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 Post subject: Re: Raine's Hangout- <3 OPEN
Posted: Aug 7th, '15, 00:13    


Raine Seryn

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I love naps. I could just live on naps. =u=

Yeah I agree with you. I try to push myself to be better, but it's not really much compared to others. But I try not to compare myself and be happy with the progress I make on my own. =u=

Oh yay! I'll... try to post in yours at some point. >/////> I never end up posting outside my own threads for very long so I'm sorry in advance if I don't show up much.

Yeah I need the alone time too. Yesterday was really bad for me. I was cooking dinner for only 20 minutes and there was only my family and dogs around, but I go so uncomfortable I ended up eating dinner alone in my bedroom. I didn't even tell anyone it was done or clean everything up. ;__; I was lucky my bf was so wonderful and took care of things for me.

I went to a ghost town museum here in June. It was really neat, but it's really small so I was also kinda disappointed. But I like the big museum in Denver. And last time I went I didn't get to check out the dinosaur exhibit cause there was a lot of kids there that day and we ran out of time. :( *I wish we had skipped the health section cause that was not as fun as it looked*

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