Living with 5 unknown people sounds like a nightmare to me. lol.

Like if it was friends and lovers, sure. But strangers? No way. I can't deal with none of that.


I would actually like to live in a commune kind of setting. Where there are a few houses where we all live together. Maybe have a garden for everyone. Then we can hang out whenever. Sounds awesome.

Living with roommates is always a hard balance.

In uni I lived in a shared suite with 3 other girls for a summer. None of us knew each other and it was a huge mess. DDD:


That commune setting sounds pretty awesome Deb! :D Then you each have your own home, but it's close enough that everyone can help each other when needed~

I once lived with two roommates. One was my ex and the other was her lover. It was very awkward. They were not awesome roommates. They would bang in front of me. I was like, guys, I am not paying for this weird porn.

Like if we had discussed it beforehand I might have been into it. But they just started going at it in the only air conditioned area and I was like it's either this or death by heat. lol.


I knooow. I would love it so much. Then I wouldn't be so lonely all the time.

Oh my god that's next level

My first ever roommate in uni was in this shared room (so one room, two beds, two desks kinda deal). She was in a long-distance with her boyfriend and they'd.... well... having long skype calls that get very very NSFW.

She was a morning person too, I remember one day on the weekend I literally woke up to the sound of them going at it, except it was just... her going at it... with a computer...

Uni was a wild time, I overheard so many weird banging.

It was real close and personal too. lol.

Also, have you noticed that with many male/female couples, the lady is super hot and the dude is ok at best. Like, what's up with that?

That's crazy awkward too. Did they at least ask you if they could?

People are so rude.

I can understand taking care of yourself as long as you do it quietly. But anything more than that is extreme.

Did they... have an exhibitionist kink?

YES I HAVE NOTICED! Just yesterday I saw a couple on the street. The lady was smoking hot and the dude looked like a gorilla

There's a Chinese proverb about this actually that translates to "a lovely flower grows on cow poop". I think it's meant to say, when the dude doesn't look hot, they are good providers of nutrients?

Oh no they didn't ever even talk to me LOL
It came to a boiling point when one day, I went to use the bathroom (the dorms had communal bathrooms... was horrible), she thought I was going for a shower... Soooooooo when I came back like 5 minutes later, I opened the door to, uh, the most "exciting" part.

After that I sat her down and was like "no more".

I guess that they could have. But I did not consent to it. I don't kink shame, but I do believe in asking for consent!

I did not consent to be involved in the scene so it's uncool of them.

Now, that being said, I would love to be involved consensually in play. It's impossible to find anything like that in my state that is not OLD people. I don't mind a few old people, but I would like people my age involved too.


I can understand back in older times when you didn't get to choose your partner, but golly you can choose now. And lots of the ugly dudes don't even have a good personality! If they had a good personality I could also understand.


Weird. Did they stop after that?

lol no.
But luckily she moved out before the semester was over, so I had like 2 months of blissful alone time

Consent is so important, but so tricky D: Like the hard and fast logic is easy to understand, but in a relationship, I find that sometimes it's hard to judge clearly when you're uncomfortable and say "no" in a timely manner

Seems like someone who would have done better in their own dorm or place. Not good at being a roommate.

It gets easier with practice. And it's important to ask before you get to playing. I know lots of people have issues about talking about sex and things like that, but it's a lot easier to go in informed.

Also! Safe words are not just for kinky times! Spouse and I use one for if there's any type of situation we don't like. Like if there's tickling or teasing and we want to stop. It's made things a lot easier.

When I was in college, renting a room in a shared apartment was the best way to go - at least for my taste.
Otherwise you could find a room in a dorm or boarding house, but I never liked any of them much.



I suppose we do have a safe word too? It's "ouch".
^^;