@Ambar: I think it depend on the stimulation as well as many other factors actually. Sex orgasms can be better than masturbation orgasms, but can also be the same or even weaker. It really depends
It can be your cycle, your mood, what you'd like at the moment... Plus there are different kinds of orgasms too
I've had great sex orgasms, but sometimes I can't even come during sex without some additional stimulation, which is pretty common as of what I've read. And sometimes you just need some mouth loving, 'cause you dig it atm and no other form would give you an orgasm with the same strength that particular day
So it really depends.
Also, kinda awkward, but I'm sorry your orgasms are disappointing, I hate when that happens
It's like, hey, wait, that's it? where did my orgasm go? XD
I think average female orgasms last for about 10-20 seconds? Not sure. Also, the ones from masturbation tend to be slightly weaker and shorter. But again, I think it depends on stimulation.
Lady River wrote:you know the weirdest feeling, feeling slightly horny but being depressed.
Mm, teenage years XD But yeah, been there too
it's disappointing. Unless that's how long it normally lasts? Actual sex can pump you up a lot more with all the foreplay so do sex-orgasms last longer than masturbation-orgasms?
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but still disappointing.
But men have their problems with them, too. For example they can sometimes ejaculate without an orgasm. How disappointing, right? Plus their orgasms last about half less. Bf says it's pretty much just a few seconds and he's jealous of my long orgasms xD 
But yeah, grinding on furniture used to happen a lot 
i haven't been getting myself into the mental state beforehand because i haven't been able to make the time among other things but now i'm going to give that more importance and see how it goes. i also understand the whole thing better now! i don't exactly have anyone to talk about this stuff irl to so this really helps 
