Kingdom of Knuffel

I don't know what to do because I can't have sex and well this is awkward but when I masturbate, I do orgasm, but it literally lasts seconds it's disappointing. Unless that's how long it normally lasts? Actual sex can pump you up a lot more with all the foreplay so do sex-orgasms last longer than masturbation-orgasms?

Depends what uh stimulates you..... they can last a bit...


uhh if you like tease, hold off, tease...... repeat..........then yeah

yeah my libido is wishy washy.

you know the weirdest feeling, feeling slightly horny but being depressed.

@Ambar: I think it depend on the stimulation as well as many other factors actually. Sex orgasms can be better than masturbation orgasms, but can also be the same or even weaker. It really depends It can be your cycle, your mood, what you'd like at the moment... Plus there are different kinds of orgasms too
I've had great sex orgasms, but sometimes I can't even come during sex without some additional stimulation, which is pretty common as of what I've read. And sometimes you just need some mouth loving, 'cause you dig it atm and no other form would give you an orgasm with the same strength that particular day So it really depends.
Also, kinda awkward, but I'm sorry your orgasms are disappointing, I hate when that happens It's like, hey, wait, that's it? where did my orgasm go? XD
I think average female orgasms last for about 10-20 seconds? Not sure. Also, the ones from masturbation tend to be slightly weaker and shorter. But again, I think it depends on stimulation.

Lady River wrote:you know the weirdest feeling, feeling slightly horny but being depressed.

Mm, teenage years XD But yeah, been there too

Men don't last as long as us most times too.

Really depends what turns you on too. With right material, and if you're into it, toys... I've heard you could make it last a while and have different/multiple orgasms.

thanks! makes sense

my orgasms have certainly been weak. 3-4 seconds.

unfortunately i can't get material or toys either... in fact till recently i would rarely get the time for myself to do it, since i don't have a room of my own. so now i've been sitting under the faucet, which is better than grinding on the bed like I used to do but still disappointing.

Fingers work...

Also exploring ones body is perfectly normal.


That sucks you don't have your own bedroom :(



>> I used to use the showerhead cause it was one of those where you could move it from the wall.. type of thing. haha and had different pressures.

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Now our shower doesn't have that (moved out). But I live with my fiance.. soo



Also depends what you like tbh. Orgasm requires some mental stimulation too..... but it is primal mostly I think.

Orgasms are complicated, especially for women But men have their problems with them, too. For example they can sometimes ejaculate without an orgasm. How disappointing, right? Plus their orgasms last about half less. Bf says it's pretty much just a few seconds and he's jealous of my long orgasms xD

Lol, I never had a shower with different pressures, I just kind of only used fingers and maybe the water stream But yeah, grinding on furniture used to happen a lot Gosh, puberty was a bitch, lol

I'm not sure I would agree on orgasms being primal (the sex tho, absolutely yes ). Look how many women just can't come and experience orgasms. A woman's orgasms starts in the head imho. For men it's slightly easier maybe, but they still can have trouble with coming.

thanks everyone i haven't been getting myself into the mental state beforehand because i haven't been able to make the time among other things but now i'm going to give that more importance and see how it goes. i also understand the whole thing better now! i don't exactly have anyone to talk about this stuff irl to so this really helps

I am jealous of your orgasms ;-;
I've been sexually active since 18 but I've never had an orgasm with my partner. In all honesty, sex is very painful for me even with enough lube. It's okay for the first minute but afterwards it feels like someone is stabbing me with a blunt rubber object ... in the uterus .v.; (I mean I'm pretty sure that's exactly what is going on)

My current partner is very understanding. He's so sweet and he knows my libido is low low low and all I really want to do is cuddle and nap. I try to get into it for him c: cause I feel bad blue balling him all the time.

Please advise me on this mental thing of which you speak 'orz

jacobgrey wrote:I can't sing at all, I have a very weak voice too!

Ah, it could have to do with your breathing when you sing. Apparently a lot of people breathe incorrectly and when you sing it has to feel like you're pushing the air from your lungs. Also, you should properly warm up or your voice feels weak and strained.