light_sucks wrote:Have you ever thought about keeping your name? It was a lot easier and cheaper for me to keep my name. Didn't have to get new paperwork. Didn't have to pay for the name changing paperwork. I probably saved over 400 bucks.
I also really hate the connotation that when a woman is married that she loses her entire identity to her husband. That she is just an extension of him. It really grosses me out.
I don't judge women who do take their husband's names though. I just really don't like that it's expected. Like most people don't even consider the husband taking the wife's name, the wife not changing her name at all, or even making up a name to share.
I hate the way taxes are done here too.
I actually know more married couples where the husband took the woman's name than the other way around! I know it is still very uncommon, but for whatever reason these people seem to accumulate around me.
Personally I don't really care whether the man takes the woman's name or the other way around (though I always thought both keeping their name each was an odd choice and thatw ould never be an option to me), I would probably always go with the most "logical" choice. In my case, no German person could ever spell or say my former last name, which was Czuber. No one knew how to pronounce it and whenever I spelled it, they still did not get it right, because the combination of c and z right after each other does not exist in German, so German brains don't seem to be able to handle it.
I also never had any kind of attachment to that name, so it was much easier to take my husband's name, because his name is just made up of the German words for "tree" and "brook", so everyone knows how to spell and say it. I think all I had to change was my ID and it was around the time it would have expried anyways, so there were not really any aditional costs for me.
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It's mostly the Europe shit here in the news. And we're before elections (I think), so there's that.
