Thanks jacob. Just kick my butt when I start slacking off again xD

Well, you can always stop the volunteering for now to take care of yourself and then come back to it at some point later? I think? No one should really judge you for that, least of all your parents, but what do I know J is right here, your health is the most important. Not volunteering doesn't mean you can't keep in touch with the people you like from there, right?

Oh that's fine, if this is what's best for you :)

Oh no, I feel ya, I am at 2 tokens now as well

Thumbs up for the novel and the exercises!!

I also found an interesting job I want to apply for, I want to write the application today/tomorrow :)
And went for a run this morning :)

Jacob, I think mem is right here. What if you tell them that you first need to focus on yourself for a bit, to get things done and to find a way/balance to deal with your job and your health and your personal life? Are you sure they will be that mad at you?

That sounds like guilt tripping.

my mum does that.

It's why I haven't visited yet since I moved. I think it's possibly a form of gaslighting too which sucks.

Wow, volunteering sucks XD Then I guess it's up to you, but in my opinion if you don't take a break from this and that, your health might get revenge for it in the end, and then you'll be royally screwed, even more than now
Still, with your health at stake, I don't think you have much of a choice. Can't your parents find someone else to volunteer with them, to keep the whole team? Like a friend, neighbour? Do they have to stop if you stop? It doesn't make sense to me, but I also don't know shit about how volunteering works, apparently

@Julez: Good luck with your application!

volunteering should never be compulsory, it's called volunteering for a reason.


Even if it is your parents, they should understand but I think they won't..

That said if you do stop, try to ignore the comments that guilt trip. Stand firm.

You may just have to go in complete hermit mode to avoid that drain.

Like hermit mode to only those who drain you, as in your parents.



It sucks but for your own health, probably for the best for a while.

Though I say before you hermit, leave a note or something...


iono I'm actually about to go to bed, it's midnight..

It's really not fair that they might guilt trip you later on. After all you're their daughter, your health should be more important to them, even if they have to also stop doing something you enjoy. I mean, it's for your own good, come on. You can't make everybody happy, that always backfires sooner or later, I'm sure you know that. If it's common sense for you to quit, then quit. Dealing with hurtful comments isn't pleasant, but you'll pull through :)