hello! good day!

coding is doable but tricky and hard..so I can understand giving up when it's a bit too far above his level.

@jacob: Well, I get that, my mom keeps having the same problems with her jobs, although she somehow finds her way to actualy stay in those jobs... idk how she does it.
It kind of worries me that you are slightly suspicious of J, maybe try talking with him on a more honest level, so you could somehow become more sure of him? From your point of view it really doesn't look well ;/
On the other hand, I'm a quitter too, so I kind of get it if you say he drops things when they get more difficult

And thanks, I passed the yesterday's test at 97% XD But guys, I could use my notes on both tests, so it's not rocket science XDD

@Jill: You just hop in, say hi and then disappear again, don't you? XD How's it going for you?

Haha, I don't mind people shortening my name, I actually kind of like it :D

Ah, okay, I thought maybe he was not telling you details because of the way you said "he said he had proof this time" or something like that, it sounded like he told you abstractly but not what it was. So I thought more details might make it easier to judge if what he tells you sounds plausible to you. Of course any part of it could be lying - but to craft a convincing lie with a lot of details is harder, right?
It's good that you came to a solution for your teaching times! :)
I understand your conflicted feelings about talking to your mom - especially when you are kind of disappointed and unsure about the situation yourself, it's always easy to imagine that someone else would take it in a similar way. And a mom that thinks badly of your partner is no fun at all, I used to have that problem when I was still with my ex. I was always worried about talking to her about anything that wasn't super positive because I didn't want things to get worse. I'm not sure if that was the right thing to do though, she may have thought that I just blindly only saw the good things in him, because that was the only thing I showed towards her.
Why do you think she would pressure you to leave him/ get a bad impression? Have there been problems between the two of them before? Has she expressed concerns about his work issues before? I think it is unlikely that she would immediately think he was in the wrong if neither of that is the case. Especially if she has dealt with a similar situation herself in the past.

memoriam wrote:he drops things when they get more difficult

That got me thinking just now - maybe it's just that when there's a difficult situation with his boss (that might really not be his fault), that just bums him out and he loses his work ethics because the job becomes such a thing? That could then lead to his firing at some point and might explain why it happens again and again, since some unpleasant situations might just be expected to happen? I'm really talking out of my ass now though, I have no work experiences myself and I know far too little about the concrete issues he is having to know if this could even remotely make sense. Just a thought I had ;)

Phew, that was a lot to catch up with!

Hi Jill, we are talking about jobs/new jobs/losing jobs/getting jobs/jobs to be able to afford a living :D

mem,
Congratulations on passing both tests so well! Seems like a great start at the new company! I am happy you seem to get along with your colleagues :) Do they also meet outside of work from time to time? Like drinks once a month or something? Or lunch? Maybe you can be friends with them as well, wouldn't that be great :P ?


jacob,
I really agree with what mem & Chriz said.
I also feel terribly sorry for you... You are working your ass off day in day out, struggling about doing the magazine, the teaching and what not and now he was fired (again) and all the pressure about earning money is on you... So far I don't really believe him eithe (but we know your perspective only though, so I might just have taken on your position here :D).
I'd try talking to him once again, too. Like mem said, maybe he never felt comfortable in his job? Or as Chriz said, maybe he was bummed about sth the employer said/did or he was bummed about not being able to achieve something so his work ethic slumps?
Either way, I guess it is a very sensitive subject for him so you should probably be careful how you talk to him because he might be easly offended.

I think I am getting a cold, which is super inconvenient because I have to work Saturday and Sunday. I need my voice for my job.

Sounds quite right to me, too, Chriz. I deeply hope that we are wrong and that this time it as really his boss who is wrong and not him. It's great you want to help him with the appeal anyhow :) You seem to be a very nice and hard-working person to me, don't let anybody let you down or stand in your way.
It feels like you are moving forward in life and have plans and aims, I don't know if he can live up to that (obviously only judging from what you have told us).

About your mum, I wouldn't tell her anything either :D

@memoriam: I'm sorry, I do not want to seem like a weirdo who waves and runs, I thought they were ignoring me. I'm very good, trying to meet new people, and you how are you?

@LittleJulez: I do not know what the situation in their countries is like in order to get a new job, but at least here in Mexico it is very difficult having a university career, and without education it is much worse. and if you get the most badly paid ...