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Re: Raine's Hangout- <3 OPEN
Posted: Aug 14th, '15, 23:17
by Moi
Me neither.
But it's a whole different story offline xD
Re: Raine's Hangout- <3 OPEN
Posted: Aug 14th, '15, 23:46
by Mikael Hart
Aha, I know.
I like chatting with some friends more than others offline, but I still pretty much talk to everyone who talks to me. :X
Re: Raine's Hangout- <3 OPEN
Posted: Aug 15th, '15, 00:14
by Moi
I don't have any friends offline and my family thinks I talk too much.
So I just talk online mostly xD
Re: Raine's Hangout- <3 OPEN
Posted: Aug 15th, '15, 00:31
by Mikael Hart
Ah, yeah, school and work are the places where you make friends most often; if you have neither, well...
It's easier to talk to peeps online than IRL. If they don't like what you have to say, they just don't have to answer. XD
Re: Raine's Hangout- <3 OPEN
Posted: Aug 15th, '15, 02:08
by Moi
I got my GED and graduated. I was going to try to go to college, but bad stuff happened and so my life is on hold. I don't like aging continuously, though xD
If I don't like someone, I usually ignore them.
But you got people going out of their way to attack people they don't like.
It seems completely STUPID to me <<
Re: Raine's Hangout- <3 OPEN
Posted: Aug 15th, '15, 02:27
by Mikael Hart
Ah, I see.
*shrugs* People respond to things differently because of different reasons. Doesn't make it right or wrong, but that's the way things are. I don't expect people to think like I do [though I tend to get along better with people who reason rather than get emotional], and I don't expect them to respond the way I would.
Sometimes it's a really good thing that people are so different from me; Ocean's pretty different, and she helps me see things in a different perspective. She gets me thinking out of my usual ways and I love that. XD
Ignoring people is kinda like the last straw for me; I would usually try to fix things beforehand [because I dislike disliking people], but there are cases where I definitely need a break.
Not everything gets resolved just because we want it to; not every relationship has a happy ending. Doesn't mean that I wouldn't push for reconciliation if I'm able to though, but there has to be repentance and forgiveness.
When I talked to Roy about our problems, she apologized, and I forgave her. That meant she acknowledged that she hurt me and what she did was wrong [even if it was unintentional], and on my part, I forgave her [meaning that I won't hold that situation against her no matter what, and that I'm willing to let the past be the past].
Then there's my brother's ex-girlfriend... she... I need more time before I even want to look at her, much less be in the same vicinity as her. *facepalm* She's just really obnoxious.
Re: Raine's Hangout- <3 OPEN
Posted: Aug 15th, '15, 02:33
by Moi
I just don't like certain people and I don't care about talking to them xD
I think it makes more sense to ignore someone than to attack them.
I'm struggling right now, actually. I still believe in forgiving others to get forgiveness and I mean it's really a waste of energy to me to hold grudges, but there's someone in my life I can't forgive right now. I hate her right now and I prayed to God and told him to have patience with me because I will eventually forgive her, but right now I just hate her so much xD
I think it's impossible to like every person.
Re: Raine's Hangout- <3 OPEN
Posted: Aug 15th, '15, 02:47
by Mikael Hart
Fair enough.
Well, it's like a fight-or-flight response; people either avoid or confront problematic situations. I wonder if people who get more confrontational about relationships get more confrontational about other things too, and same with the flight people. I'm naturally more of the "flight" type, but recently, I've been trying not to avoid unpleasant situations so often and just try to deal with them.
How do you forgive to get forgiveness?
Yeah, sometimes it takes a long while to forgive someone, especially when you reach a point when you feel like you hate them. I had that problem with someone before, and it took me a long time to deal with it. I had to just give it up to God and "forgive" in faith [like even if I don't feel like it, I try to let it go]. It took me a while, but now I feel like I really have forgiven that person, and I hope that they will be able to find peace and reconciliation as well.
True, but I still want to be able to understand them. There will always be people that I naturally like more or less than others, but I just don't want to outright dislike them because they don't meet my own standards of what people should be like. If that were the case, I'd have very little friends. XD;
Re: Raine's Hangout- <3 OPEN
Posted: Aug 15th, '15, 03:19
by Moi
I was taught that in order to get forgiven from your sins by God, you need to always forgive others, or God won't forgive you.
I don't know if that's true, but that's what I was told all these years xD
So I try to forgive others because of that and also I know what it's like to not be forgiven and it hurts, so I want to do it to make myself and the other person happy again.
Anyone that is rude or mean to me, I don't like them.
xD
Re: Raine's Hangout- <3 OPEN
Posted: Aug 15th, '15, 09:13
by Mikael Hart
Oh, I see. I think that it says that in the Bible due to the fact that people who believe and follow God [aka, the Christians] should try their best to understand His love and reflect His nature [which is patient and forgiving].
It wouldn't be right for people to say, "I'm a follower of Jesus" and then just go around still doing whatever they want [if that's the case, then aren't you just following your own desires?]. It's not merely a religious thing, but it's a relationship thing; the more you understand what the Biblical God is like, the more you understand what His desires are.
God loves and wants to be reconciled with everyone, and so when we realize that God is willing to accept us when we do wrong and are imperfect, we must also look at people in the same light [that even if they do wrong, God still loves them]. Romans 5:8 pretty much says it all, "...God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us."
If you've been granted such great grace, then wouldn't it be petty of you not to show a bit of that grace to other? I think that's the true nature of why you need to forgive others. [Because of your own realization of how good God is to you.]
Of course, if you don't believe in the Bible, then that's another thing entirely.
I don't like when people are rude or mean to me, but I can tolerate it to some extent. I mean, if a child does something dumb, sometimes you make yourself okay with it because they're kids and they don't know any better [doesn't mean you shouldn't correct them though]; sometimes you have to be patient with them. Same with when an animal hurts you because it has been traumatized with something in the past.
Although there are times when I do get mad or irked, it's an area I have to work on, because people who are rude or mean probably have either low intellect or low EI [or both, and that's kinda sad for them]. I can't always change what people say or do, but I can change how I take it and how I deal with them.