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Re: ⁂＊ℭonfetti ℜain＊⁂
Posted: Jul 19th, '20, 20:41
by Moi
How'd you burn your face o_O
I'm glad you had fun 8u
I got extras if you need any after the event 8u
Re: ⁂＊ℭonfetti ℜain＊⁂
Posted: Jul 19th, '20, 23:18
by memoriam
Moi, I was playing laser tag in the hottest and sunniest time of the day at that wedding/reception XD
I'll let you know if I will need that, thanks
River, did we get one last year? I can't remember. I think last time we got a knuffel it was announced that we can get it. But I might be wrong. Event knuffels are always welcome in my collection
Re: ⁂＊ℭonfetti ℜain＊⁂
Posted: Jul 19th, '20, 23:34
by jacobgrey
Hey so
haha
my parents cancelled our wedding without telling us. We only found out because the council reached out to ask us if we'd like to change our legal documents to a new venue.
hahahaha welp. Anyway. At least we can just get the fuck on with it and get married now, and do it without owing them any money.
Re: ⁂＊ℭonfetti ℜain＊⁂
Posted: Jul 19th, '20, 23:43
by Luluannabell
I thought I'd just jump in, get back into hangouts and say hi but
Are you okay, grey?? That is one of the most inconsiderate things they could have done. Were they ever planning on telling you??
Re: ⁂＊ℭonfetti ℜain＊⁂
Posted: Jul 20th, '20, 00:04
by jacobgrey
I guess not? I tried to look up what they were doing right now but my dad has also unfriended me on Facebook (lol what teenage girl pettiness is that).
But yeah, I'm good. I was wanting to cancel it, but I was going to wait until about a month before so we could cancel for covid reasons and get them a full refund, just so they couldn't ever hold it over us. But I guess they screwed themselves with that. And now I don't have to worry about ever talking to them again, which is a plus.
Also, J's mum is being such a sweetheart to me lately that, like. I'm basically getting a new family instead and I'm cool with it. She sends me messages about books that I might want to read so she can lend me them, and gives us cakes every time J visits them, and actually congratulates me on my achievements and supports me
Re: ⁂＊ℭonfetti ℜain＊⁂
Posted: Jul 20th, '20, 00:23
by Luluannabell
Wow. That is... something. Good riddance. How did they even start out paying for the wedding and then cancel without telling you? That seems like a harsh turn of events.
Actually I'm not sure I want to know because it's probably infuriating.
I am very glad you have such a supportive family through J! Looking towards the future without such pettiness and with a supportive family is going to be much better.
I just cannot imagine being such a dick.
...Though I guess my dad is not talking to my brother's fiancé over soup. Maybe pettiness just runs in old men.
Re: ⁂＊ℭonfetti ℜain＊⁂
Posted: Jul 20th, '20, 00:35
by jacobgrey
Haha! Yeah, well, in a nutshell: my mother was trying to run the whole show and had basically booked the venue she preferred, bought the dress she wanted me to have, chosen the musicians without even telling me, and so on, and we argued a lot of times about it. At Christmas when I visited them it flew up into a serious row again and I told her, multiple times giving her multiple chances, and very calmly and clearly, that I couldn't carry on being around her if she wouldn't stop deliberately invoking arguments and being negative about everything I said. (I have fibro which is triggered badly by stress, so I laid out the fact that every time she did this she was basically making me sick for the short term AND shortening my lifespan... yeah, she just rolled her eyes and laughed when I said that). But she wouldn't stop and she even kept escalating it, then my dad joined in and made it worse, and even when I got to a point of hysterically begging them to leave me alone they just continued yelling in my face. So I just shut myself into a room away from them, called J, he came and picked me up, and we haven't seen each other since then.
We have spoken a few times via text or email and things were starting to get civil again, but then she was just calling J up weekly to yell at me second-hand about me and I couldn't be doing with that anymore. Given that she would yell at him every time I sent her a message I just stopped sending them, and she's never tried to contact me since. Not even for the date that would originally have been our wedding, not to check that I've been safe through the whole covid situation that I'm at high risk for, nothing. So, screw it, this has been a long time coming.
And guess what? My overall stress levels have been a LOT lower this year. Global pandemic going on, busier than ever with work to the point I've been working seven-day weeks of 13-hour days, and yet, lowest stress levels that I can remember. Go figure :'D My health is slowly coming back and I have everything I need in terms of support and love. All it took was to not have parents anymore 
Re: ⁂＊ℭonfetti ℜain＊⁂
Posted: Jul 20th, '20, 00:42
by Luluannabell
That is kinda sorta what I thought it would be, and it's definitely infuriating
I'm sorry your parents are such dicks.
I'm glad you're feeling better! Sometimes you really do need to just cut off the rot.
Re: ⁂＊ℭonfetti ℜain＊⁂
Posted: Jul 20th, '20, 20:32
by Moi
>8u
-puts lotion on-
I got a sunburn on my face years ago and put regular lotion on it.
Big fat mistake. That hurt like hell u8
jacobgrey: That's...really out of the ordinary o_O
I'm sorry you've had to go through so much trouble lately and I'm glad you're feeling better.
Weddings in general seem so stressful.
But I always wanted to get married and have a cool wedding.
But like...I have no interest in being with anyone.
Can you get married just for your own happiness without a bride or groom 8888u
I want a zombie wedding.
Honestly, it would be cool to have a partner have fun with me like that.
Someone who has the same interests and supports me.
But I completely lack any physical interests.
Like I don't even like hugs xD
Definitely not kissing.
Re: ⁂＊ℭonfetti ℜain＊⁂
Posted: Jul 20th, '20, 21:45
by memoriam
@jacob, I just want to say (apart from that I'm sorry your parents did this to you) I'm super happy for you that this negative turns out into a positive and I'm honestly so proud of you for standing your ground and fighting for your own peace. I can't express it well enough, you're a lioness
I'm throwing
*confetti rain* on you, because we haven't had that in a while and I need this to come back, it's a great occassion
And welcome to our hangout, @Luluannabell!
*sprinkles new joiner confetti rain*
@Moi: Lol, yeah, I've been using some cool gel for the burns, then once I used my regular face cream with some UV filter because I thought it can't be that bad anymore... boy, was I wrong...
