@Moi: Oh, yeah, sorry XD I can change it back if you want
Well, I'm preparing now I guess XD
It's true, he doesn't know what to say because he just doesn't know what he wants. He doesn't even know whether he's happy with his current life or not.
We had a discussion about the issue today. We didn't end up fighting, so that was nice. There's a lot going on in his head. I don't think we've ever had a confrontation where he was this open, raw and honest with me. I think he actually bared his soul for me today. So I'm actually hyper grateful and proud. I can't ay I'm content or happy but at least we're making progress and I finally know what's going on, at least more than ever. Before I only had what I surmised with a gentle sauce of my own fears.
But yeah, he still won't go to couples' therapy as he doesn't think we have issues to work through But he told me he's looking forward to going back to therapy once his place opens again in March. So I cross my fingers it actually will open...
Exactly. I told him today that I feel like a yoghurt in our fridge, I have an expiration date. Or I'm that fruit that sits too long in your kitchen and suddenly it goes bad although it was perfectly good just the day before...
It's not unaccaptable, I don't think It's just a thought that happened, it's okay to have them
Yes, please, I need a slap. If the Universe will speak through your hand, I'll take that slap XD
@Ray: Eeeey, long time no see XD
Ahaha, SLAPFEST! *slaps everyone*
I'm seriously hyper lately.
Re: *⁂* Confetti Rain *⁂*
Posted: Mar 1st, '21, 02:52
by Moi
You don't have to change it back - I got it saved u8
That's really good 8D
I'm happy for you both.
Talking really helps and people often avoid it because they don't like confrontation.
I'm one of those people xD;
I avoid conflict like the plague.
Feeling like a yogurt or piece of fruit...That's a really good example 8u
Well, I can't even take care of myself so I have no reason to be wanting a kid.
Someone that depends on others like me shouldn't have someone that depends on them.
My mom does nearly everything for me because I won't do it for myself otherwise.
She'd end up raising my kid too if I did have one xD;
-inhales- SLAP 8U/
>XD
Have you ever seen that funny video where this guy just slaps everyone?
Re: *⁂* Confetti Rain *⁂*
Posted: Mar 1st, '21, 16:04
by jacobgrey
Oh man, what if I think I'm a piece of fruit but it turns out I'm a vegetable XD I do get scared about that. My mother always used to say "well, that's if you CAN get pregnant" every time I brought up children and she would never explain why. It worries me that something happened to me or I was born with something and they never told me.
Then again, she did lie a lot as well. Like when she guilt-tripped me into cancelling all my plans with my work team for Christmas and travelling to visit my relatives instead, because she said my grandma was in a wheelchair. When we got there, she wasn't in a wheelchair at all. She hadn't even been sick recently. She did die about 8 months later but still, it was a complete lie. So it could go either way, really.
Re: *⁂* Confetti Rain *⁂*
Posted: Mar 1st, '21, 21:59
by Moi
I am totally a fruit 8u
Possibly a poisonous one u8
Yeah, but I say stuff like that too. I just like to point out other possibilities, not trying to jinx people or hint at other problems xD;
I hope you're okay and it's just a streak of bad luck 8u
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Posted: Mar 2nd, '21, 00:12
by memoriam
@Moi: We didn't decide on anything so it's not like it was some major breakthrough, but I'm glad we could at least talk and remain civil. I still think he's contradicting himself but has no clue what to do about it. And it won't help if I tell him what he should do. Because I think he should just let go, because he's worried too much about the future and many other stuff it's unnecessary to worry about now. Literally he's worried about "what ifs".
I hate conflict as well, I'm a Libra XD But he's been avoiding that serious talk so I'm happy I tried and succeeded. I don't think I understand him yet but I'm beginning to. At least I know for sure he's not ignoring my pain and I have a better understanding of just how deep his issues are. They're complit bullshit to me, but he truly believes or is terrified of certain things. And I know them to be completely not true.
I still think a random thought doesn't need to be slapped away. It just needs to be reminded, like "hey, where'd you come from? That's not what I want, get out of my head" XD
*gets knocked out by Moi's slap*
LOL, I have now XD He did exactly what I would sometimes want to do with my family, or coworkers, or just anybody when they piss me off XD
@jacob: Aw, no, don't let your mother's words doubt yourself like that. I'm sure she was just being... hmmm, herself She probably wanted to spite you or something. Or didn't think it would make you feel that way. Maybe she didn't even mean anything by it except for the fact that sometimes women can't bear children. I wouldn't pay too much attention to her words.
Re: *⁂* Confetti Rain *⁂*
Posted: Mar 2nd, '21, 02:59
by Moi
I tend to get caught up on an worry about whatifs myself so I can't judge him too harshly 8u;
I too am a Libra 8D
I wish I could slap people like that too Bu
But nowadays if you so much as touch a hair, people threaten to call police and sue you >Bu
Re: *⁂* Confetti Rain *⁂*
Posted: Mar 2nd, '21, 13:00
by Rayven
Moi wrote:
Rayven is here 8D
-slaps- 8u/
Yes I am!
*is slapped* XD
Was that a cat in the tree? XD I think that guy has issues but there are days I feel like doing that.
memoriam wrote:@Ray: Eeeey, long time no see XD
Ahaha, SLAPFEST! *slaps everyone*
I'm seriously hyper lately.
Yes, I get lost sometimes. XD
*is slapped again and starting to feel like a floppy fish* XD
At least you're having fun.
I hope you and Ash can figure it all out. I hate it when men act like it's solely their decision whether or not to start having kids. *rolls eyes*
Re: *⁂* Confetti Rain *⁂*
Posted: Mar 2nd, '21, 13:01
by jacobgrey
Hey hey
Third Libra over here XD
Maybe this is why we enjoy chatting to each other so much? XD
Also I was about to say that J & I had a deep conversation and some breakthroughs about his anxiety this week, around the same time as your conversation would have been. Goes in patterns, doesn't it? It's easy to see how horoscopes can be right for lots of people when we have these same thought patterns/wavelengths/whatever you want to call it.
Also, ahhhh. There's so much to work on with him. He told me that he never tells me when he's upset or annoyed with me because, quote, I'm more important than he is. Which.... ahhh. I keep trying to tell him that we're equally important, that we're in a partnership together. I think I might have to say it a few hundred times before it sinks in.
@mem thanks, I hope you're right about her being just... herself lol
Re: *⁂* Confetti Rain *⁂*
Posted: Mar 3rd, '21, 02:51
by Moi
Yup he slapped a fake cat out of the tree 8u
Libras unite \8u/
I don't really believe in horoscopes all that much, but I have to say Libra is a perfect fit for me xD
I often don't tell people things because I feel it's not important or if it will upset them, I will keep it to myself.
Like say I had a bad day, but I don't want to tell others because it'd ruin their day somehow.
Re: *⁂* Confetti Rain *⁂*
Posted: Mar 3rd, '21, 03:22
by demonajay
sending this message around to see where it's the most active. Is this a ghost town?
But he told me he's looking forward to going back to therapy once his place opens again in March. So I cross my fingers it actually will open...
It's just a thought that happened, it's okay to have them 
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