Haha, yeah, that could be the movements! My sister was told by basically everyone that she'd feel "butterflies" in her belly and she was like "how the hell is THAT supposed to feel? Bu" XD So the first movements she felt were actually gas-like and she was convinced she needed to go to the loo XD Later on she began feeling the little "flutters", which I assume are the "butterflies" everyone keeps talking about
I feel you on wanting a boy so much What a stubborn little rascal! :D
My two cousins both had boys and their moms also had boys for the first baby. But my mom only has daughters (duh, lol) and my sister's having a boy so there's a chance for you to break the pattern

That sound sooo familiar, I already forgot. I overprepared for the first baby, pregnancy brain want to get everything clean and ready. And built up, immediately,, not 2 hours later. Those men are also so lazy and not understanding the stress. Looking back -> pregnancy brain. Weird thing. <3

Butterflies were cute, enjoy it. And I think it's a great idea to take the last month off, if possible try not to plan too much work in the last months, you'll never know how you'll feel, but if you're in the same part of the earth, at least you won't have a big belly during a hot summer. :) Though flowy dresses are great to live in during hot summers while pregnant.

I had 3 boys, they all felt different? I think? Or maybe I forgot in the mean time. The first I was sure if would be a girl, but it wasn't. So far for my gut feeling. Both are cute though. :)


Divorce, nah, don't plan on it either. Unless the pair is almost killing each other literally or physically, I think there's always a way to work it out. I doubt a new relationship will be better or bring so much more. It's as if it's always working even harder the second time.


Trip to England, no spouses allowed! :D I vote for it! ;-D If they don't want to go, leave them at home. I've went several times back "home" without the whole family, just because I wanted another plan than he did. I like chatting with my mom for 2 days straight and visiting gran for an afternoon, husband has only patience for those things for 1 hours at most, sooo. I'll just leave him at home. ;-D Covid stunk though, ruined a few of my travel plans, but soon we'll visit family again. :) Really looking forward to it.

@jacob: Lol, I can imagine the look on Ash's face if I asked him to do that XD But hey, you're growing a human, you deserve it Plus I think it's important to check if the parts are working and not broken or something. So it doesn't sound like the worst idea

@Jolien: Hah, I don't have a lot of energy to stay near my family most of the time. Sometimes I can spend half a day talking with my mom but I hate spending the same amount of time at my granny's place. There's too much TV noise and church crap for me
I would be terrified to go on an abroad trip completely alone. Ash makes me feel safe, especially I have a talent for getting lost in new (and sometimes familiar) places and he's like a human compass XD

I try to talk through the issues that come up between Ash and I, but there's always that thought in my head that this time it's over and what the hell am I going to do when we break up and I don't wanna
Maybe it's anxiety or fear of abandonment, Idk. Or maybe it's my fight or flight response, who knows? XD Like, "if you make this one tiny mistake I'm gonna start thinking on breaking up, because I'm emotionally unstable", lol.
Then again, his male brain goes: "why do you always want to talk things through? It wasn't even a real argument. Why can't we just forget about this and move on?" So I had to explain it to him that talking things through let's us understand one another better and prevent such misunderstandings in the future. Then we talked it through and he agreed it was nice to find out what my deal was and that I understood his xD

Ash sometimes finishes my sentences for me, because he thinks he knows what I'm gonna say. And then I tell him to stop guessing and thinking he's in my head, lol.

@Moi: I recently told my therapist this: it's funny that I'm a Libra, so I should be balanced and all, but my attitude in life is "all or nothing".
Scary realization. But true. So I'll be working on that. I need that balance in my life.

@jacob: Wow, how rude! And sexist

I think that acknowledging and naming emotions is a great thing. It helps to notice, understand and accept one's feelings and emotions.
Some days I just wake up in a crappy mood and I try to tell Ash about it before I take it out on him. But I noticed it matters to me if he just notices and asks what's wrong, why it's wrong and if he can do anything about it. I try to do the same for him when he's in a crappy mood. Sometimes it's just "ugh, babe, I'm in a bad mood, I don't know why and I need a hug". Hugs load the human batteries.