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Re: *⁂* Confetti Rain *⁂*

Posted: Dec 10th, '21, 07:55
by jacobgrey
Welp. I've got a baby XD

I did nooooot enjoy giving birth. We had latent labour (strong and frequent contractions but not yet dilated enough to go to hospital, thus not being able to have good pain relief) for 57 hours. I was screaming and crying for probably the last 24 hours straight because it hurt so bad. My body was being too slow, but we finally got into hospital and I had some hours of being able to manage the pain okay but then my body realised it needed to hurry up and... went too fast. The dilation that is normally done in an average of 4-8 hours, I did it in less than an hour. I basically blacked out for that whole time, even though I was conscious I just don't remember it because the pain was so bad. When I came back to myself I found out J had to decide for me to get an epidural so that I could at least function because I was so out of it I couldn't consent to the procedure myself. Anyway, then I still couldn't get over the last hurdle alone because baby was so big, I needed a forceps delivery so they also had to cut me to get him out.
Aaaand then I started bleeding out and almost died :') but they fixed it eventually and got me stable again, we just had to spend a few days in hospital because they were concerned about my blood loss and about the possibility of infection. He's 12 days old now and we're back at home.
after all this, he's my beautiful little angel and I love him so much hahahaha. I was literally lying there in theatre, J had him in his arms and was holding him near my head so I could see, and I was like "oh I'm probably dying? haha okay well never mind LOOK AT HIM HE'S SO PERFECT AHHHHH". Worth it in the end. Though I'm not sure I'm going to have the nerve to do it a second time :qhehe:

Re: *⁂* Confetti Rain *⁂*

Posted: Dec 10th, '21, 15:29
by Jolien
Congrats! <3

But that's indeed not a very happy story. Don't think about a next time just yet, just enjoy this one. <3 If it helps, 2nd babies tend to come faster and the bleeding to death part, I hope that if there'd be a next time, they'd check why and check more frequently to avoid that? Anywayyyys, just recover now. All you gotta do and feed and cuddle baby. Lots.

12 days already, time flies. Great to hear something from you though! :qlov: :qlov:

Re: *⁂* Confetti Rain *⁂*

Posted: Dec 10th, '21, 21:58
by Moi

Congrats on the baby even if we're a little late :D

Also Jesus Christ o___O
We almost lost you D:

Yeah, if there is a next time hopefully it will go a lot better for you .__.

Re: *⁂* Confetti Rain *⁂*

Posted: Dec 12th, '21, 16:35
by memoriam
OMG jacob!!! :mcomg: That's one hell of a birth story, literally :mcargh: I was super worried about you (all of you) and I kept praying for a positive resolution to whatever was happening. Thank dog and the doctors you pulled through! That must've been super scary for you and J, I can't even imagine :mcgloom:

Oh, and don't think I forgot...
Spoiler
:qstar: *⁂* Congrats on the baby *⁂* :qstar:

I find it amazing that even though women can go through literall hell during labour, they still love their babies like nobody's business QuQ

I hope you're proud of yourself and that recovery is less bumpy than the labour :qh: :qh: :qh:
Do try to give us an update once in a while, I'll be worried XD

Re: *⁂* Confetti Rain *⁂*

Posted: Dec 12th, '21, 16:47
by Amura
Congratulations, jacob!!! :qn: :qn: :qn:

Having a baby is such an adventure.
And your adventure had a bumpy beginning, but in the end it's all teles to tell them when they grow.
"Oh, my dear, the day you came into this world was such a mess!"


I'm glad you are feeling better already, and back at home.
Out of the hospital is always a blessing :qh:



PS:
Yep, if you have a hard birth it's harder finding the nerve to doing it a second time. I wanted two children, but gave up completely on having the second one.
Some people have bad memory though, and after two or three years they forget the hell they went thru and only remember the nice parts.
Time will tell which case is yours!

Re: *⁂* Confetti Rain *⁂*

Posted: Dec 12th, '21, 20:00
by jacobgrey
Thank you guys!

@Amura I hope I will forget. It would be nice to give him a sibling XD I am an only child while my husband has two older sisters, and I love to see how they support each other now even as adults. I would want that for him if I can manage it. But I don't know if I will XD

It was definitely scary for J, but he's coping a lot better than I am now. It just started to catch up with me now. I have caught up on sleep enough to be more present and that's when I'm starting to really process everything that has happened.
He's back to work tomorrow so I'm kind of scared D: I'm sure I'll be able to cope but it's a big scary step to take, being alone together for the first time. We were supposed to go see his sister, her husband, their two kids and two dogs today but we cancelled until next weekend because it felt still a bit too overwhelming for now.

Re: *⁂* Confetti Rain *⁂*

Posted: Dec 12th, '21, 22:06
by Moi

Maybe next time won't be as bad 8u
Get back on the horse after falling off?
I can never tell when that's a good idea or bad idea xD

I know my mom had me the normal way but for my sister, she needed a c-section.
I can't remember why, though.
They equally seem disturbing to me u8

I hope everything goes well for you and you're not too overwhelmed.

Re: *⁂* Confetti Rain *⁂*

Posted: Dec 13th, '21, 01:23
by memoriam
Well, if you decide you want to give him a sibling but don't want to risk going through bad labour again, you could try to adopt. I heared it's easier to get approved when a couple has already had a child.

It's good to hear J is coping better, at least one of you can be less shaken up :mclaugh:
I'm sure you'll be fine alone with your little one :qh: Although I do think fathers should be allowed a longer parental leave, it's not fair to anyone...

I think I wouldn't want any visits after a couple weeks after birth, I'd be like, I'm tired, leave me alone, see ya in a year or so :mclaugh: A newborn is already overwhelming, especially the first one, then also having to deal with people... hard pass. I only have enough social battery to deal with my kid and my partner, and even he pisses me off. (Yes, I already chose my new-mom attitude, I'll be a pain in the ass, lol).

Re: *⁂* Confetti Rain *⁂*

Posted: Dec 13th, '21, 23:51
by Moi

Adopting is good and you probably won't almost die 8u

I'm not pregnant and never will be and I wouldn't want anyone to visit me for weeks either xD

Not trying to change the subject, but has anyone...seen a person act a fool in public ._.?
I found this Youtuber that covers true crime and she had this video she watched of this woman freaking out at this other woman in a Victoria's Secret store.
Someone got upset at the Youtuber for siding with the woman not freaking out because the other was having a mental breakdown.
I...don't think it was a mental breakdown >_>
I think she was throwing a tantrum and acting like a child.
She also tried to hit the woman right as she started recording.
She was being extremely aggressive and no one was helping the woman who was the victim.

I don't think I've ever seen people do that, but I did hear two women yelling at each other across the store and my mom went to go see and said they started fighting and security got involved.
I don't even like going out in public, so I would NOT do anything to cause tons of attention on myself ._.

Re: *⁂* Confetti Rain *⁂*

Posted: Dec 14th, '21, 14:37
by Jolien
I guess some people just never grow up? :mcheh: