Kingdom of Knuffel

Sorry for the late reply, had bunch of stuff to do yesterday.

Amba- Very true about buying PC parts at a time. The bills were occurred from several years ago and it seems the morons choose now to bill me for something they should of collected on about 5 yrs ago but choose not too by taking the taxes my ex and I were to receive. I have no idea what to do or what's going on. I'm trying to ask my mom about it. But the fiance and I are looking for our paper in the house with the name of a free attorney to talk to him and see if something can be done so if I don't have to pay it at all or maybe even have the thing lowered to practically nothing. Not my fault over the past 6 yrs they only sent me 2 things saying I owe money and they choose not to take the money when they had the chance. I swear some people are idiots.

*hug* Kira. I hope things go well for you hun. For sure couples seem to argue about money the most. Good thing money means nothing to me so the fiance and I never argue about it. Plus talk of money triggers panic attacks for me since my ex yelled at me a ton about money and having to waist it and spending it on crap no one needs >.< But Amba is right about what she said about couples. Being with my fiance I realized so much about what was wrong with my last relationship and how truly toxic it was. Wished I met him sooner so I wouldn't be a bit screwy in the head lol. But I met him now and that is all that matters. Try not to freak out more. I know for me, I make things worse when I freak out. *hugs*

Youri- aw dude don't apologise! Hope you find the contact of that free attorney and he's able to help you. Like that doesn't even make sense, who doesn't take timely payment when you actually offer to pay and then bills you years after? Blows my mind

Lunch, oh I like colouring too! I like those books called 'calm colouring', they're usually so beautiful but so expensive so I don't even own one haha. Pencil shading calms me even better though, so I end up doodle-shading a lot in the middle of class

Kira, Lunch and Youri are right. The best piece of advice is to not freak out. And to not freak out during a fight and just see how to work it out.

Ambarsariya wrote:Kira, Lunch and Youri are right. The best piece of advice is to not freak out. And to not freak out during a fight and just see how to work it out.

I suppose that is the best I can do at this point :/ The people I've asked so far have done the polite version of laughing in my face and saying, "Ha! She thinks it's s easy as asking around for advice, ha ha!" (Meaning they did exactly that, minus the laughing.)

saiyouri wrote:*hug* Kira. I hope things go well for you hun. For sure couples seem to argue about money the most. Good thing money means nothing to me so the fiance and I never argue about it. Plus talk of money triggers panic attacks for me since my ex yelled at me a ton about money and having to waist it and spending it on crap no one needs >.< But Amba is right about what she said about couples. Being with my fiance I realized so much about what was wrong with my last relationship and how truly toxic it was. Wished I met him sooner so I wouldn't be a bit screwy in the head lol. But I met him now and that is all that matters. Try not to freak out more. I know for me, I make things worse when I freak out. *hugs*

Thanks! This is a long-distance thing, so I don't think money is a problem right now, but I'll keep that in mind just in case *getting ahead of myself and snapping out of it* I just hope it doesn't become toxic or anything because we've had our toxic moments in the past, before we started dating (long story -_-).

Lunch wrote:Hello there, CycloneKira! I've been in a lot of relationships myself(though mostly long-distance for some of them...), but am now engaged to the person I want to be with! If you guys are not having any sort of problems right now that could cause a fight, I wouldn't worry too much about that issue. If the relationship you're in seems to be going well and you guys haven't had an argument yet, you're doing really well!! But, of course, fights do happen(I know, fiance and I have had our spats.). And if this happens and if you really want to be with/love this person, you will want to try to make it work. Just...communicate. Talk it out, see what's the problem, and find a solution. Cause relationships are not easy, haha. Trust me. And...if you really do love this person and want to stay with them, it will just bring you closer together once you know you can work things out. Hope this helps somewhat, haha!

That's amazing, Lunch, congratulations! And that's great advice, thanks!

BTW Youri, the law student in me is threatening to break through after hearing your situation OMG. So many questions....

What's the use of worrying before you even have cause to worry? Just take it as it comes. And it's not like you thought it would be as easy as asking for advice, you just thought it'd help you feel better or more prepared or whatever.

True. *urgh* My friend had this break up recently, and by God, the collateral damage from the break up was more disturbing than the actual break up itself :/ She's been crying her eyes out ever since, because the males and the females in our friend group have (oh so surprisingly) taken opposing stances on the whole thing and it's messy AF now and she feels like she's losing her good friends. For some weird reason, that's making me feel scared about my dude, even though there is zero relatability in both our situations.

Plus, I watched La La Land recently, and I was just reminded about how even the most beautiful things don't last, and that reminded me of how much I really love this dude and I fucking want it to last even though I'm probably getting ahead of myself again, but I don't effing care and I really want it to work out for so many reasons and I'm so scared that it won't and I feel like crying every time I think about it.

Also, my dude and I are still in the "careful" phase of the relationship (it's only been nineteen days, plus we're both scared of this relationship for different reasons) and I really want us to grow out of being careful and just be, instead. But the one thing I find encouraging is that he says things from time to time that let me know that he's working on it, and I'm working on it too. So, I guess that's a good thing.

Because of this happening now, I've been feeling a stronger urge to do well in college so that if and when the time comes for me to tell my family about him, I can do it proudly. OMG WHAT THE EFF IS HAPPENING TO ME THERE'S SO MUCH TO THINK ABOUT AND I'M REALLY GETTING AHEAD OF MYSELF AGAIN AND I DON'T WANT TO LEST I GET DISAPPOINTED OR SOMETHING BUT GOD.

What do I do? This is so scary for me. I really like (if not love) him, and he makes me happy. But I'm so scared, it's not even funny.

Edit: Okay, that turned into an insanely long wall of text. Please don't mind it, people, and I'd totally understand if you don't want to read the whole thing

CycloneKira wrote:he says things from time to time that let me know that he's working on it, and I'm working on it too.

Focus on this. I know it's complicated, and I know it's not that easy, but focus on the fact that you're both working on it, which means you want it to work. A relationship takes effort and you're both willing to put in the effort, therefore whether or not you think you're getting ahead of yourself doesn't matter, because the effort is worth it.

HI everyone! Back to this site. Love it on here.

Thank you Lunch, things aren't too bad now.

Amba- The thing is, the bill I was talking about, they told me quite a few years ago they were going to intercept the taxes and take the entire bill. I thought they did (wasn't allowed access to the checking account we shared >.>) and then a few years later I get a bill saying I owe the money. I thought they took the money already. But the woman I spoke to said they choose not to intercept the taxes. She was older and I was already in shock so I didn't feel like asking anymore questions. Tomorrow we are going to call that attorney and hope for the best. If I remember to call that is. My memory is horrible now.

*hugs* Sorry Kira hehe. If you ask anything I will try my best to answer things.

I hope things work out for you and your bf. Long distance is hard and I wish you both luck with it.

Hi Lucrexcia, welcome back. How are you doing?

saiyouri wrote:Thank you Lunch, things aren't too bad now.

Amba- The thing is, the bill I was talking about, they told me quite a few years ago they were going to intercept the taxes and take the entire bill. I thought they did (wasn't allowed access to the checking account we shared >.>) and then a few years later I get a bill saying I owe the money. I thought they took the money already. But the woman I spoke to said they choose not to intercept the taxes. She was older and I was already in shock so I didn't feel like asking anymore questions. Tomorrow we are going to call that attorney and hope for the best. If I remember to call that is. My memory is horrible now.

*hugs* Sorry Kira hehe. If you ask anything I will try my best to answer things.

I hope things work out for you and your bf. Long distance is hard and I wish you both luck with it.

Hi Lucrexcia, welcome back. How are you doing?

Thanks, I'm good. Asthma is really bad lately and family drama is stressing me out but I'm managing.