Kingdom of Knuffel

I think I used to be more wary of new people, but the older I get the more I spill at a very early stage xD It might be because I tend to enjoy deep conversations than all the silly small talk. Who cares about the weather or jobs? Let's tell each other our traumas and bond over them I know it's ridiculous, haha.

Hotarla wrote:I’m sure you’ll find the right time. After all, you just met so its good to take it slow sometimes.

Maybe there will be time over the next few meetings. Unless he's all about the panties business and once I don't allow him anything on Saturday he'll lose interest Good riddance then. But I really like him so hopefully he's genuine.

Amura wrote:Awww, that's so lovely, mem!!!

And the pace for this sort of thing is never too fast, imho. I mean, it can be too fast if one the persons involved is pushy. That's plain wrong.
But if you both are feeling the rush of adreline (or whatever it is) which makes you want to spend time with each other, and move forward in your relation, I think that's perfect - just perfect, neither too fast nor too slow.

Time will tell, but right now I'm so glad to see (read!) you so happy and hopeful and excited

As mentioned above, I often don't have the filter XD I don't want to scare him away, though. Or to hurt myself by giving him too much too soon.
On the other hand, I would hate to waste his time if he's not okay with certain stuff. For example his deal breaker might be that I'm friends with my ex. So far he knows I have a male friend and he already doesn't believe in that kind of friendship being completely pure and aromantic (though he said he would try to not be toxic about it if his girlfriend had this kind of friendship). That's what I'm worried about, because I'm not willing to skip Ash from my life. So I'd like to ask him about it. I have some ideas how to break it to him, because I wouldn't want to lie to my partner (although it's only been two dates so far, it's a bit crazy to think about a relationship already).
I'm also curious about what he'll think of me being in only one relationship and for 11,5 years That's a lot.
So, I have stuff to worry about when it comes to finding a new (and preferably forever) partner


Oh, and we've decided to watch the Fullmetal Alchemist. I've never seen it, he has but it was a long time ago and he'd like to refresh his memory. It was funny, because we agreed to come up with at least 5 shows to watch and Fullmetal was the one that we both had on our lists

Yeah, not a partner already, but for me it makes sense to think of him in that light... because if you did not wanted him in your future you would not bother dating him at all, right?
So. He's a partner-to-be, I suppose. Which is something different from a fling, after all.

And, yeah, it can be a deal breaker indeed. Or maybe not.
When I started dating (if you can call it dating) my hubby, finding out he was not in speaking terms with his ex was rather confusing. I had never thought of him as resentful, and his cold attitude towards her made me feel maybe he actually was. It was a tricky sensation to navigate, because it hated the idea that he might end up resenting me later...
For me it would have been easier if he had a good relationship with his ex!

I see you that way, you've shared so much with Ash, you care about him, and you don't really resent him. Which is why you remain friends.
But you've gone thru a lot with him too, not all good, that's why you broke up in the first place, and it does not mean you are gonna forget it all and fall back in love again.

Such a long previous relationship may be overwhelming for a new partner indeed.



Fullmetal Alchemist is not the most romantic show to watch together xD
But I'm sure you're gonna double enjoy it, watching it with him ^.^

Well i hope he’s genuine to you Mem. :)

*fingers crossed*

Sooo anywayyy we’re currently going through a cold weather warning here lol. Yesterday, I heard it would go down to -30 to -40 degrees C lol. Although, I don’t think it went down to -40c, even with windchill. Every time I checked my weather app, the lowest it went was in the -20s. XP

i heard it's below minus fifty degrees in texas and miami and stuff

Is it? That’s cray mannn. 8u

Haha, no, Fullmetal Alchemist isn't romantic, but we didn't aim for romantic So far I like it.

And I really-really like this guy now... Told him about my previous relationship and that I'm still friends with Ash. He really seemed to have taken that well. He said he understood and didn't have anything against it. At least he denied it every time I asked
I have to trust him on that.

This next week is supposed to be really cold again, so maybe it's a global thing? Idk

Idk, but the past few nights, I’ve had to turn on my portable heater. Usually I’m fine without the heater since my duvet is more than warm enough and it’s not cold enough in my room to need the heater. XD

Oh, that's great to hear, mem, that's he's understanding. That makes for a great start!
I wish you all the luck