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♣~Group Therapy~♣ | For venting, chatting, motivating daily!
Posted: Mar 1st, '18, 00:23
by February
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Hi lovelies <3
Welcome to
Group Therapy.
Have a seat, pour yourself a cuppa (or something stronger),
and tell me alllll about it.
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Background:
You may have seen me around in other hangouts, and I adore this forum.
I really wanted to make a place that allows people to get really personal.
God knows, some days I just need to vent to someone.
And the next day, I want them to ask how everything went afterward.
Sometimes, the odd kind word or the reassurance that I'm not
awful is all I need to keep me going on with my day <3
Sooo... group therapy!
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What we chat about:
It's a hangout, so I want to hear about your day.
But! I also want to give advice, get frequent updates, and help to motivate you!
(And I would love if you lovely folks would do the same for each other, or me!).
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What we love:
Feel free to treat this chat like a diary.
If you're nervous about opening up, start asking questions instead.
We LOVE text walls, so don't worry <3
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Opening bonus:
I have been longing to open a hangout thread for a long, long time.
To welcome new chatters, I'll be holding an informal raffle once there are frequent posters,
giving away custom art and maybe an FC or something?
Disclaimer: This is NOT a giveaway thread. I just thought it would be fun as an opening event for the thread! <3
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Re: ~Group Therapy~ | For venting, chatting, motivating dail
Posted: Mar 1st, '18, 00:23
by February
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Reserved.
Re: ~Group Therapy~ | For venting, chatting, motivating dail
Posted: Mar 1st, '18, 00:40
by February
Okay, now we're officially away!
I'm gonna start off.
Lately I've been super bummed, particularly these last couple of days. I took a couple of days off work and said I was sick, but they were really mental health days.
Which scares me, because I've been in this job two months... but mental health is important to me.
My mental health has been stable for a while, but this depressive bout came outta nowhere. Bleghhhh.
However! I'm trying to work on my art more lately. I want to be proud of what I do with my time. Even when it feels like I am drawing through sludge, because I go so slowly and have no motivation. 
Anyone else had a rough couple of days?
Re: ♣~Group Therapy~♣ | For venting, chatting, motivating da
Posted: Mar 1st, '18, 00:51
by Nyuu
Yay for a new hangout!
Mental health IS important! It's good that you took a few days for yourself, to relax and feel better. You say it came out of nowhere, do you have any idea what triggered it? Did something happen that you subconsiously are worrying / thinking about maybe? That could be the reason.
I hope you feel better soon!
I've been dealing with some stuff too, definitely keeping me from getting enough / decent sleep.
Re: ♣~Group Therapy~♣ | For venting, chatting, motivating da
Posted: Mar 1st, '18, 01:02
by February
Oh nooo, affected sleep is the worst :c What's up?
God knows sleep is so important. It's hard to face the day on no sleep...
For me, well, it might be hormones that are making it worse? Though I don't think it's solely that, because I was first super stressed about two weeks back.
One afternoon at work, they gave me a job that I am not qualified for, which I couldn't back out of. I have only been there two months... I went from feeling okay to just feeling incredibly out of my depth. After work I just left super fast, and felt like crying.
So... might be stress 
Lately my boyfriend's habits have felt like they're making this episode harder, though. He got some time off work, so he's been staying up super late, and I can't sleep without him. So he had a lie in, and I got six hours of sleep on a work night.
It just felt so awful, as if he didn't give a crap. 
And I know he does, he's just trying to enjoy his time. But weh.
My brain likes to take thoughts like that when I'm depressed, and just twist them until it's all I can think about.
Re: ♣~Group Therapy~♣ | For venting, chatting, motivating da
Posted: Mar 1st, '18, 01:09
by McCoy
@February
Do you ever/frequently take (deep) breathes periodically when feeling not at the top of your game during a given day?
Re: ♣~Group Therapy~♣ | For venting, chatting, motivating da
Posted: Mar 1st, '18, 01:11
by February
Hey McCoy! Welcome to the chat, and to KofK <3
I do indeed take deep breaths. Sometimes it's the only thing that stops me from panicking, especially at work or when I'm put on the spot and super shy.
I had a couple of anxiety attacks in the past so I am always super conscious of normalising my breathing when I feel it pick up.
Do you find it helps you too, McCoy?
Re: ♣~Group Therapy~♣ | For venting, chatting, motivating da
Posted: Mar 1st, '18, 01:19
by McCoy
Oh, thank you truly.
Good; I'm epileptic and deep breathing helps with stopping seizures and calming myself.
Re: ♣~Group Therapy~♣ | For venting, chatting, motivating da
Posted: Mar 1st, '18, 01:30
by Nyuu
@ Feb
Ahh so many things keep me up at night, honestly...
My granddad passed away in November (very sudden, he wasn't sick) and it all started then. I couldn't sleep anymore for weeks and it's slowly getting better, but still very hard.
And then there's other things keeping me up, such as worrying about my parents and grandmother, because they are not in perfect health at the moment.
Aw, doing work you are not qualified for can be very stressful! The fear to fail and the lacking knowledge can be killing for your self esteem D:
I'm sorry to hear about your boyfriend's habits! I know how you feel, honestly. I don't wanna go into detail about that right now but yeah..
@McCoy
I try to take deep breaths too when i start panicking or something, it sometimes helps me
Re: ♣~Group Therapy~♣ | For venting, chatting, motivating da
Posted: Mar 1st, '18, 23:37
by February
O
h no McCoy! I'm sorry to hear that. I'm glad deep breathing helps <3
Nyuu, I'm so sorry about your granddad. Sudden is the worst thing that can happen to a family; I fully understand how such a loss contributes to sleepless nights. It is still so recent :c I am glad it's slowly getting better, though. Even if sometimes it can feel like two steps forward and one step back. It sounds like you had a good relationship <3
Sending good thoughts to your parents and grandmother also D: That's stressful... :c
Thank you for understanding. I swear, it feels like he used to be more thoughtful, which makes it feel like he's doing it on purpose - but then I am sure he just doesn't realise, and it's not like my boy to be nasty. But it's hard to stay sensible.
Not to mention that evening is the busiest time for my brain going in circles and dwelling over bad thoughts, so late nights are the last thing I want!