Yeah same here! I find therapy super helpful because it's an impartial 3rd party looking at your life and identifying things you struggle to see. Through therapy I've learned to view myself more positively and become more confident. I found that this had helped me form much much stronger and more fulfilling relationships! Long live therapy XD


But yeah, I feel you in that cuddle aspect. Especially late at night after reading some romance novel/manhwa I get so wistful of the relationships depicted. Unfortunately irl romance is so much more difficult >_< I always have to tell myself to keep my expectations realistic LOL

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But yeah, I feel you in that cuddle aspect. Especially late at night after reading some romance novel/manhwa I get so wistful of the relationships depicted. Unfortunately irl romance is so much more difficult >_< I always have to tell myself to keep my expectations realistic LOL

This is me every time I watch a kdrama lol. Some of them depict such warm fuzzy romance that I want something equally tender. I’m bitter that I haven’t experienced anything like that until now. I just long for it sometimes.

Oh absolutely; I have such a romantic side to me too, but the real world isn't like that at all haha.

The only time I found a person I was drawn to romantically was sadly already in a relationship too, so that was a no-go. It's so tough to find someone...

I think that the world has generally gotten a lot harder to live in, so realism has to get prioritized over romance more often than not D:
It's easier to escape to stories and fiction where problems are always resolved, characters are always worth rooting for, and you can count on happy endings. Irl these are hard to get >_<

Sorry, I'm rather cynical about romance lol
For me I feel safer cuddling my platonic bestie than with a romantic partner. But that's just me /D;;

I agree; it's easy to root for characters than it is to apply that to real life lol - especially when you know it'll work out in the end.

I understand, I don't really have a bestie I can hug freely sadly, plus I'm getting older and it's hard to find someone willing to spend time with me alone LOL

And characters are people you know completely (most times, plot twists notwithstanding XD), but irl you never know what someone is really all about, what they're thinking, what their intentions are ... And when you find out it's too late you've already been hurt ):

Like, one of my exes from uni was super sweet and nice for months. And I really believed that he prioritized me and even was thinking about a future with me... Until I found out he was going out with multiple different people and didn't really care at all D:

And these stories repeated themselves in different ways, both to myself and to those around me. Everywhere you look are scary stories. So now I don't put any hopes on romance, I find it dangerous OTL

I do feel you in that feeling more stressed about it all as you get older aspect though >_< I used to not care about this at all, but slowly now I'm wondering "if I don't find someone now, won't it get even harder if I end up feeling lonely but is old and wrinkly?" And then the anxiousness wells up. So it's a really frustrating flip flop of "I don't want this" and "but I might need this??" I don't know if that makes sense OTL

You know what we need? Those humanoid robots from Chobits that are programmable to fit your needs perfectly. No danger no stress all the cuddles perfection.