I feel the same about Ash. But I'm having a strong impression my family starts to think it's because of him that I'm rebelling against their opinion. I don't know, but I've had my mom ask me such things a few times already, like "is he poisoning you with this stuff?". No, I have my own opinions, mom, thanks for believing I have a brain
I'm sorry to hear your family was torn apart as well. In my experience, the other party will always stick to their own side of the story and put you in the worst light possible. I'm not going badmouthing anyone. But my sister and her husband went all around grandma's family, badmouthing her, my mom and me. As far as we know, my sister only let her husband speak, but that's releasing her form the blame. And the best part? The whole family believed them and turned against granny. So yay. Of course they said we're the bad guys, while they never mentioned their own faults. That's typical.