I can understand that. I was with a guy for three months and I got pregnant. I've known our child longer than I've known her dad. I never really considered being a parent because I didn't want to be a parent, though now it's the most important thing I do. It's been rough, and I don't think it gets easier.

Oh gosh. Is he not interested in being a coparent? Doesn't sound like it if you've known your kid longer than her dad.

Yeah, I've never wanted to be a parent myself, either. But I never wanted to be married, either, so who knows? I just hope that I take it as seriously as you seem to if that ever happened. I hope you have people in your life who can give you wisdom and also a helping hand, even if it's not from the kid's other parent.

Sunlight wrote: ↑Jul 11th, '24, 04:01 Oh gosh. Is he not interested in being a coparent? Doesn't sound like it if you've known your kid longer than her dad.

Yeah, I've never wanted to be a parent myself, either. But I never wanted to be married, either, so who knows? I just hope that I take it as seriously as you seem to if that ever happened. I hope you have people in your life who can give you wisdom and also a helping hand, even if it's not from the kid's other parent.

Having a baby without a support system is almost impossible in the United States. Luckily I have parents that love the both of us that've let us stay here while I finish college and find a place for the both of us.

No, my child's father immediately defaulted full custody to me hours after I had her. Even if he did, I wouldn't let him because he keeps dangerous company and I wasn't hanging with the right crowd at the time.

Yikes! I'm glad you're out of that crowd, then. For both of your sakes. I hope he's at least paying child support, though.

Yeah, I knew this one person who had a baby with someone who wasn't a very good partner, and when she tried to leave him, his entire family stopped supporting her and she ended up homeless for a bit, and had to get back with him. She's gotten away from that toxic relationship now and I think she's in a good place relationship-wise. I couldn't imagine what that was like.

Sunlight wrote: ↑Jul 12th, '24, 00:14 Yikes! I'm glad you're out of that crowd, then. For both of your sakes. I hope he's at least paying child support, though.

Yeah, I knew this one person who had a baby with someone who wasn't a very good partner, and when she tried to leave him, his entire family stopped supporting her and she ended up homeless for a bit, and had to get back with him. She's gotten away from that toxic relationship now and I think she's in a good place relationship-wise. I couldn't imagine what that was like.

Nah, he doesn't pay child support. The courts would probably make me tolerate joint custody and I'd rather be broke than have that happen.

Sunlight wrote: ↑Jul 15th, '24, 02:14 Yeah, fair. Husband's mom did the same thing with his dad, but Dad honestly isn't a bad person. They're good friends now and he does his best to connect with Husband and me. On my last day in Canada, he brought his lovebird over to my place for me to say bye. I love his lovebird. Such a sassy little spoilt princess.

I LOVE birds. I've been wanting to get one but I want to have the right space for it if I do. I wish I lived in Australia where they naturally occur, because I love cockatoos. c:

What sweet birb!!! :))))!!!!
I bet it'd love your porch!!